6 Tips To Have An Ultra-Romantic Weekend Getaway
For a short period of time I had an East Coast and a West Coast boyfriend. Both were new, commitment-free relationships. The problem was, I didn’t know which I liked better. So I tried the ultimate relationship appraisal: a romantic weekend away. Now, traveling is unnerving for all couples, even married ones, but skipping town with a new partner is ultra-precarious. So much can go wrong! I soon discovered that East wasn’t big on daily showers (is that too much to ask?!) but that West—who smelled like Irish Spring soap, bless him—and I were the definition of compatibility, from sleeping to eating, reading to sex. We were so in sync that we’re still dating, one year later. Here are a few tips on navigating a weekend vacay, no matter what stage of the relationship you’re at or where you’re heading.
1. Manage your expectations.
Even in the best-case scenario, there will be issues. A fender bender on the way to Newport, a migraine in Santa Monica, a lost wallet in Nantucket. You can’t prepare for these bumps in the road, but if you’re gearing up for the best weekend ever, you’ll take the hit harder. So remind yourselves that you’re hoping for a “nice” escape. That way, when trouble finds you, you can say “no big deal” and get back on track.
2. Talk money in advance.
Have an honest conversation about the division of financial responsibilities before you go. It won’t be sexy, but it will save you stress when the check comes. Maybe you split everything, or your significant other pays for the hotel and you’ve got the meals.
3. Have a code word.
You have annoying habits, I have annoying habits, and our quirks are seriously amplified in a hotel room the size of a Mini Cooper. Come up with a code word for when you’re driving each other nuts. And make it funny, like “tonsil!” Sometimes the easiest way to defuse any tension is by bringing it out into the open. This way, no one is fuming, and you might even catch a free laugh.
4. Don’t overschedule.
Sure, romance is alive, but you’re really going away to relax. Netflix and chill in the huge hotel bathtub! The Norman Rockwell Museum will be there next year. If the two of you have different ideas of downtime, propose a deal, like, “I’ll hit the hotel gym in the morning while you sleep in.” Taking a little break from each other doesn’t make the weekend togetherness any less legit.
5. Inhale some fresh air.
It’s essential to hike, bike, swim, or whatever the climate allows for. Nothing is more enchanting than playing around together in the great outdoors, and no couple ever feels worse after a snowball fight.
6. Bring along #gratitude.
Try to remember your single self and how you dreamed of whimsical weekends away with a crush. Don’t take it for granted. Traveling with a partner you’re compatible with is one of life’s sweetest pleasures, especially if it’s someone you love to kiss. And hey, if not everything about this person is super appealing at the end of the day, that’s when you thank the hotel gods for creating the minibar.